Builder is concerned about the effect I'm having on Thing 1 and Thing 2. He's afraid that I want them to be "modern" (whatever that even means anymore). Last week, he asked me, "How would you feel if one of our daughters married a boy who wears a shtreimel?"
As long as he's a decent human being, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. I would give the same answer for every type of cover, from a shtreimel to a sruga. I care more about what's in the head than what's on it.
I'm going to be every shadchan's nightmare when my girls grow up. I care nothing about externals or how many blatt Gemara my potential son-in-law can parrot back. I care about the inside. What kind of person is he? Is he considerate? Does he work hard? Will he respect independent-minded women? Will he be a good father? Does he respond well to setbacks? Is he open-minded? Is the Torah he studies in him as a way to live? Does he love and respect his family? Does he have a good, caring heart? None of these questions can be answered by looking at shirts, hats, or tablecloths. They can only come with time.