Last week, I read an article in the Jewish Press, in which the author rejects girls for her "great" son because they weren't pretty enough. HUH?
And all this time, I thought that spirituality counted more than looks. Only the secular world encouraged puff-brained beauties. But no, out of the window go good middos, compassion, business acumen, learning, and good conversation. In comes Marilyn Monroe from Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. (Ironically, Marilyn herself had to change both her appearance and her name to be acceptable to Hollywood.)
Now, I have no problem with advising girls to use makeup, hairstyles, and grooming to show themselves to their best advantage. However, I would strongly condemn the author for her casual attitude towards both massive weight loss and cosmetic surgery. Perhaps she should visit a hospital where young women are being treated for eating disorders. Also, maybe she ought to consider that these young women were attempting to impress their future mothers-in-law with their modesty, simplicity and frugality. They wanted to show that they could turn their hands to the varied, and often menial, tasks involved in running a home without breaking their families' collective banks. They wanted to show that they would not demand $800 strollers, extravagant wardrobes, or top-of-the-line cosmetics--all out of the budget for a learning family.
Yet another moment when I shake my head and ask, "What did I sign up for?"