Recently, over at Reddit, a guy calling himself TofuTofu (Ken Hoinsky) decided to promote himself as a dating guru and publish excerpts from his dating manual. Then he decided to solicit funds on Kickstarter, and raised the funds necessary for a self-publish. All well and good--the Internet is the ultimate land of free speech. However, the book itself...
Most of these come straight from Chapter 7--Physical Escalation & Sex. Comments in italics are mine.
"Just keep in mind that it's MUCH easier to enter into a fruitful relationship with a woman AFTER you've made her cum a half-dozen times. And that's true whether you're looking for a wife, girlfriend, friend-with-benefits, or anything in between." Actually, that's not attractive to most women. Or most people. I know for me, there are some things (OK, a LOT of things) that a lady doesn't do on a first date.
"This scenario happens all the time. A man is on a date with a woman. The man fails to touch the girl and only goes in for the kiss at the end of the night. He goes home alone. His internal dialogue says, 'WTF why won't girls hook up with me? I guess I'm in the friend-zone again.' " Riiight. Because dating=scoring. Whatever happened to letting a relationship develop? Besides, the ones who kept their hands to themselves on the first date were pretty much guaranteed a second. And, really, isn't that the point?
"From now on you must ASSUME that she is attracted to you and wants to be ravished." Hey, idiot, according to the Merriam-Webster, "ravish" means "rape."
"Decide that you're going to sit in a position where you can rub her leg and back. Physically pick her up and sit her on your lap. Don't ask for permission. Be dominant. Force her to rebuff your advances." Some women will rebuff this sort of advance, usually by "escalating" to a slap or a kick in a sensitive area. Others will freeze up and just want it to end.
"If at any point a girl wants you to stop, she will let you know. If she says "STOP," or "GET AWAY FROM ME," or shoves you away, you know she is not interested. It happens. Stop escalating immediately and say this line:
"No problem. I don't want you to do anything you aren't comfortable with."
Memorize that line. It is your go-to when faced with resistance. Say it genuinely, without presumption. All master seducers are also masters at making women feel comfortable. You'll be no different. If a woman isn't comfortable, take a break and try again later." First of all, how often has "no" been interpreted as "try again in five minutes" or "I'm just being a tease, but I really mean yes?" More often than Mr. Hoinsky thinks. This is the sort of advice that usually leaves a woman calling her best friend at 3 am, crying her eyes out. NO MEANS NO EVERY TIME!
Pull out your cock and put her hand on it. Remember, she is letting you do this because you have established yourself as a LEADER. Don't ask for permission, GRAB HER HAND, and put it right on your dick." I believe the law calls that "misdemeanor sexual abuse." Again, would it hurt to ASK?
Gentlemen--Prove yourselves one, and DO NOT take this weirdo's advice. Ladies--It is NEVER OK to be grabbed, forced, or touched against your will. If you are with a man like this, get away!